Perhaps this is a subject that should not be thrown around in a gay chat room, but are we done with this topic now? Can we now get to the real business of what is really needful in the gay community, such as equity in hiring, protection from hate crimes and public ridicule? Where is the first state that is really going to deal with anyone harming someone based on their sexual preference? A gay or lesbian civil wedding is really out of the question when all we have to worry about is whether or not the bride wore white or if the groom came in drag. Someone can now answer the real questions that bother and harass this community.